Dealing with Worry Part 2: How to Not Allow Worry to Take You Over the Edge to the Dark Side
In part one of dealing with worry I was trying to show that when you are confident with your internal gifts and act out of them, then positive things begin to show up all around. What happens when worry gets the better of you?
Human beings have two aspects to themselves, an ego, which is where there negative emotions are, and their true selves, which is where their positive capacities that do beneficial things live. Both work together in a dynamic way to help you grow. Since the ego is our animal heritage, it has a tendency to do what animals do under threat, fight or flee. If the ego is in control of the person, it just completely blocks the true self and does all kinds of things for self-interest or self-glorification or self-protection.
- Worry, in our current world, seems to be at epidemic proportions. It is definitely in control. The internal true self of the world is definitely not in control. It is moving and becoming stronger, but worry is still having its day, hopefully its last day. There are certain historical leaders who really took advantage of their worried states and then became extremely brutal. How did they do it? Worry sees the future as negative. It sees threats from various directions and makes one feel out of control with it, often overwhelmed. If you are on the fighting end of an ego response and you win some fights, the result of winning is a feeling of power. It is a drug-like feeling. As a person continues to fight and win, the addiction to the power grows and then the ego is totally out of control and becomes brutal. It can be in a family, a city, or a nation. There is no difference.
If worry is on the fleeing side, it still starts with seeing the future as negative, but instead of fighting and perhaps winning, it runs away into areas other than where you are gifted. When you flee with worry, you stay far away from your true self. You can seriously into mental illness.
The first step in dealing with worry or for that matter any negative emotion is to become friendly with it. Think of worry as your best friend. If you know the secret to transformation, then it is relatively easy to make it your best friend. You are not trying to get rid of worry. You are just trying to act more and more out of your gifts. Worry will go away by itself when you know what it’s purpose is. The purpose of worry is to wake you up and tell you that you are not acting out of your gifts.
When an emotion like worry is at epidemic proportions like it is right now in the world, it simply means that the masses of humanity are not acting out of their gifted selves. They are either fleeing or fighting into their protected selves to deal with the negative future that they are perceiving. It is why parents in certain cultures never allow their children moments when they are free to think or play. They just try to keep them busy in structured activities from the time they wake up to the time they sleep. They are worried that if they don’t do this, that they are going to end up on the street or in a less paying profession. They see the future as negative. Worry is the wake up call that lets you know that your future is really messed up. It needs an overhaul. All we have to do is change our futures from negative to positive and then begin acting out of our gifted selves.
Change your negative future right now. See a positive future where people cooperate, get along, help each other.