What Do People Mean in a Dream?
What does it mean when someone appears in your dream? If you have read my postings in the past, you know that I believe strongly that dreams are given to us so that we can become more of our true selves by developing new qualities and processes. One thing most people have not thought about in regards to dreams is that, despite the fact that dreams are written in metaphoric language, there is such a thing as a message being more metaphoric than other. Some messages are closer to the real world and less in the metaphoric world.
What I mean by this idea is that when you have a dream with an animal in it and it exhibits a certain quality such as the way a bear represents strength or a tiger represents courage, that animals in dreams are more metaphoric than people. This means that when you have an animal dream, that the process you are trying to manifest in your life is further away from its full application in the world than if you dream about a person with a developed quality.
When an animal appears, you are more likely to be in a stage of development where you can do a lot of meditation and reflection and inner work, but not have a great deal of application in the outer world. When the dreams shift to people, it means that the application in the outer world is much closer after you do the change work. The person in the dream is still best understood as a metaphor, but the degree to which you can act with the quality or need to avoid it, is very high.
The mistake that most people make in dream interpretation with people is that they tend to regard them too literally rather than regarding them as metaphors and then acting on the message. It is generally more transformational to regard people in a dream as parts of yourself that you either need to change because they are negative or move toward because they are positive. It always helps when you ask the question, “What is the positive quality that this dream is trying to develop in me?”
Many people, because they are not used to thinking in a metaphoric manner, try to immediately react to a person in a dream in real life because they think the dream is telling them to do so. Dreams always point in you in the direction of change and when you make the change, the person may show up and have a relationship with you, but it is not the first step. The first step is always meditation and change because the purpose of life is to develop your capacities.
Take this example. Suppose you are in a marriage that is relatively stable, but going through a difficult patch because of the trials of life. Then one night you dream of an old girl friend or boy friend that makes you feel really attracted. The worst mistake you can make is to think that the dream wants you to leave your marriage for the old flame. What the dream really wants you to do is to remember the qualities of the old boy or girl friend that you already have in you, and then begin using the qualities again in your life and marriage. As soon as you do this then the marriage always gets better. If the old friend had the quality of enthusiasm or inner perception, then that is what your current marriage needs you to be and use.
There is a different scenario that happens in dreams when you are in a marriage for the wrong reason or were forced into it. Your dreams, in this case, will have you remember the people and qualities that actually cause you to leave the marriage. When you develop that part of you, the door will open so that you can be a relationship that is more suited to you.
Persians have this idea that if you dream about a wedding with someone that is a very bad sign that something bad is going to happen. And this is clearly because a wedding in the Persian culture is not between people who chose each other. The marriage is usually chosen for material values based upon status and gain.