Falling in Love with Death Dream
I had a dream I fell in love with the grim reaper (death). I was not scared of him and never felt threatened by his presence but we fell in love with each other!
This maybe one of the most extraordinary dreams I have ever read. You might have a tendency to think that it is a bit morbid to have a dream like this. After all, falling in love with death!! Sounds like Meet Joe Black, the film in which a young woman falls in love with Death, played as Brad Pitt. I guess if you are a woman and death is Brad Pitt, maybe death is someone you would really want to love.
My method of dream work relies heavily on the emotional content of the dreamer during the dream. Specifically if you are feeling really positive in a dream like this dreamer is, it means that death is a good thing. If you were in love with death, but you were, at the same time, full of negative feelings like fear, it would mean quite something else. So for the dreamer, death is like Brad Pitt.
The question that arises when death is a positive object rather than a fearful thing has to do with what the advantage of being in love with death is. For sure it is not about running down to the gun shop and committing suicide. Suicide is about negative depressive feelings. Loving death is a positive experience.
If you have read my postings about certain types of dreams in the past, you will know that I am for having a lot of self-discipline about not going for a literal interpretation of dreams. It is sort of the like the hype around the Mayans saying that 2012 is the end of the world and then everyone expecting the world to end on December 21st. Here we are. It is already the 24th. I am sure that the literal interpretation sold better, but the metaphoric interpretation of the world ending is just so much more exquisite.
The Republican Party in the United States experienced a kind of death in the last elections because their candidate didn’t win. The difference between the Party and this dreamer is the notion of love. Falling in love with death is a good thing if you know how to work with the metaphor, but if you read the Revelation of St. John in the Bible and think some scary sea monsters are going to appear in the world, you are just so in the wrong dimension. It is much more meaningful and helpful to work in the non-literal world of metaphor which dreams and prophecies are for the most part.
So what is so great about death as a metaphor? To understand this it is useful to realize that we have two selves, an ego, that is selfish and materially oriented, and a true self, that is full of positive potentialities that are beneficial for others. When you are in love with death, you are in love with dying to your ego.
Baha’u’llah in His book, The Four Valleys, describes it like this.
The story is told of a mystic knower, who went on a journey with a learned grammarian as his companion. They came to the shore of the Sea of Grandeur. The knower straightway flung himself into the waves, but the grammarian stood lost in his reasonings, which were as words that are written on water. The knower called out to him, “Why dost thou not follow?” The grammarian answered, “O Brother, I dare not advance. I must needs go back again.” Then the knower cried, “Forget what thou didst read in the books of Síbávayh and Qawlavayh, of Ibn-i-Hajíb and Ibn-i-Málik, and cross the water.”
The death of self is needed here, not rhetoric:
Be nothing, then, and walk upon the waves.