Dreams about your Ex
Almost every week I receive a dream on the “free dream interpretation” page of this blog where someone is sleeping with their ex and then wondering what that is all about since they don’t have a relationship with that person anymore. It can be very disconcerting to get sexually stimulated with someone you thought you were over when you have such a positive relationship with someone else. What is that all about? What do you do with a dream like?
The first thing I would like to tell you is to not worry about your current relationship. It is not about that at all. I tell you why.
There is a stage in life, in adolescence, when young people start getting attracted to each other and then enter into relationships. We all need this because we need to learn how to interact with others in ways that work. It turns out that we have a tendency to latch onto people who have something inside of them that we need for ourselves. The problem with the latching process as in dating someone and then naming them your boyfriend or girlfriend is that we get so that we are dependent on the other person. The more dependent we are the sooner the relationship goes bad. When you depend upon a boy or girl for something like being strong or assertive or being compassionate and caring, then when they don’t deliver, the fights begin. Eventually the fights become greater than moments of joy so the couples break with each other.
The problem is that breaking up does not solve the problem that led to the break up. What you needed from your boyfriend or girlfriend is just as strong as ever. Your inner being is not going to let go of it. Fortunately the dream world comes to the rescue by giving you a steamy dream about your ex. All this means is that your inner self still wants the positive quality they have in them. It shows you in the dream because the message is to be intimate, like you were having sex, with that quality. To be intimate with the quality means having it inside of you and loving it until it is totally yours. The new relationship will work a hundred times better when you find out what you were missing that your ex boyfriend had, and then incorporate it in you by working hard to develop it in yourself.
The good news is that you don’t have to have sex in your dreams with only your ex to develop yourself in a new way. It could be that you could have sex with a famous person or with someone completely random. They all have different messages and different qualities.
Who have you had sex with in a dream and what is the outstanding positive quality that they have? That is the important question.