What is Dream Work?

What is dream work? Dream work is the process of using your dreams to make the changes in your life that you have always wanted to make, but could never quite figure out how to do it.   It requires believing that dreams are a form of communication delivered to you with perfect messages, that they …

Sexual Dreams

Sexual dreams are very interesting because when people have them they often wake up with the physical sensations as if they actually had sex.    Probably there is no other category of dreams that require the virtue of self-discipline and mental focus to get through to the message that the dream is actually portraying than sexual …

Cooperation v. Individual Achievement

Not long ago I was writing a report on a 7 year old boy in his attitude toward sport.   After I wrote the report I started thinking that he just might represent the sort of problems that a great many leaders in the world have.    This boy is excellent on the climbing wall in that …

Getting Out of My Sad Stories

Last night I dreamt that I was in the house of a former colleague who had committed suicide a few years ago.    There were a number of people in the living room so I started engaging them in series of sad stories about my life of the bad things that people had done to me …

A Beer Is Ibuprofen in Liquid Form

For the most part our minds are geared to taking the easy way out of life and in the modern world we seem to have taken the easy way out to an extreme.   The cultural learning is that a physical pleasure gives you a non-material or permanent quality.  Look at this ad. This ad teaches …

You Are the Images in Your Dreams

You Are the Images in Your Dreams You are the witch and the monster.     This may be a hard pill to swallow if you are used to doing what we all love to do, which is to blame everyone else for our problems.    How could that thief or killer be me in the dream?    How …

What to Do When You Have a Positive Dream!

When you have a negative dream, you are being presented with an issue that you have to deal with.    It requires a transformation from your current state to a new one through understanding the nature of the issue, how it functions in you, and then finding the positive energy that solves the issue.   Positive dreams …

Memory Loss and the Fear of Negative Authority

If history teaches us anything,  it is that over the span of time authoritarian rule is gradually giving way to relationships built on equality.     Equality is as a huge tidal wave that is sweeping over the world.  One by one old regimes are giving way to ones based upon every person having a voice with …

What To Do When You Cannot Remember Your Dreams

I don’t remember my dreams.   In all of the dream meetings that I have done in the past 15 years this is the statement I hear the most often.   How can I remember my dreams better?   Why don’t I remember my dreams?   I don’t dream. Here are some things that might help. 1.   Dreams are …

Maintaining What is in Your Heart

Last night we had one of our monthly gatherings in our own home.  This one was about how to keep on your own path to accomplish a goal with lots of action.   It was actually the 4th in a series taken from Baha’u’llah’s book,  The Four Valleys. So to start the meeting we read the …

How We Are Going to Achieve World Peace

Act in accordance with the counsels of the Lord: that is, rise up in such wise, and with such qualities, as to endow the body of this world with a living soul, and to bring this young child, humanity, to the stage of adulthood. So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love …

What I Have Learned About Support?

Sometimes I have a really bad attitude.   At the beginning of this school year in August was one of those times.   I just didn’t want to be there.    The school moved me from one position to the other in what I would consider a non-transparent way.   I moved from what was primarily administrative and events …

Achieving the Impossible: Create an Encouraging Voice Inside of You

When you were getting rid of the tyrant inside of you based on the exercise in the previous post, you probably noticed how loud and critical the tyrant sounds.   A tyrannical voice is controlled by volume and so is criticism. What I found after having my Nazi dreams, was that when the tyrant was present, …

Nazi Dreams: Ridding Yourself of Your Inner Tyrant

This is a post that is from my next book about dreams entitled Life is a Beach. Recurring Childhood Dream (1950s):  I am in my neighborhood on the street where I am living.   In some dreams Germans are coming to take over the neighborhood.  In other dreams it is the Japanese.   In either case I …

Being an Individual and Being a Group at the Same Time

Early this week Debby and I spent 3 days among the aboriginal people of Malaysia, the Orang Asli.   In Malay the word orang means people and asli which original.      An orangutan literally translated means a person of the forest.     Many of the Orang Asli live in an area known as the Cameron Highlands which is …

Abandonment Part 2: How to Get to Your Very Best

My Short History of Abandonment Up and until 1997 I never had an employer who deliberately abandoned me.  Mind you I have had a lot of moments of  incompetence as probably most people do,  but no one ever asked me to leave my job.   Then, when I felt I was getting really great results in …

Iranian (Persian) Cultural Dreams

I am not Iranian by birth,  but recently I started hearing a number of dreams by Iranians.   I have written somewhat on the Chinese and some of how their culture plays out in dreams so I thought it would be good to share what I am observing in Iranians.    The first thing that I have …

When Jealousy Strikes

A couple of nights ago I had two dreams related to the effects on me of other people’s jealousy.   In the first dream someone who was part of my past had been accused of a murder and the clues of the murder were left in the food lying around.     Not long after that in the …

Big Wave Dreams: Are You Going to Surf of Stay on the Beach?

Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?   The Seven Valleys and Four Valleys.  Baha’u’llah Last night in my dream I was at a beach somewhere it seems like California.   I went into the water and before me were these huge waves of the crushing type so I …

The Power of Gentleness

So here I am in the middle of someone else’s living room with a group of people I have never met before except for one or two.  I am in a country that is thousands of kilometers away from my country of birth  They have been invited by the host to a presentation on “Becoming …

4 Baby Cobras and Lots of Ice Cream

“So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love in every meeting, and with tenderness rejoice and cheer ye every heart. Care for the stranger as for one of your own; show to alien souls the same loving kindness ye bestow upon your faithful friends.”    Abdu’l Baha (Baha’i Writings) So in my …

The Highly Misunderstood Snake

The National Geographic Channel as well as Animal Planet have a few shows featuring a wonderful adventurer photographer (what a great job) named Austin Stevens.   He had a whole series of shows on tracking down and photographing the 10 most deadly snakes in the world and then reframing the experience for us so that we …

Detachment Day 2: Anger to Wildness

Yesterday was an extremely trying day for me in the development of detachment.  I mean here I was going along fine and making great progress in my mind with the virtue.   I actually could begin to see myself doing stuff.   And then I went to this horrible meeting where it was all about a couple …

Overcoming Infectious Thinking: Getting Out of the Mess

“Whither can a lover go but to the land of His beloved.”  Baha’u’llah So here I am in the last days in Bali.   I have to say that when I am in Bali or for that matter on any vacation, I completely forget about my work life.   I seem to understand how to play well. …

On Counting and Communicating: Dreams of Golf and Michael Moore

So there I am last night on the golf course playing a round of golf.  That is all I remember.  Sometime later I am with Michael Moore, the documentary maker,  Farenheit 911, Sicko, etc..  Both dreams are a mixture of positive and negative so it lets me that whatever the issue is inside,  I have …

On Reconciling a Marriage

Recently I was doing marriage counseling with a couple who had been separated for a few months, had gotten back together and now were looking for some ways to preserve their marriage.   I have to admit that I was really reluctant to see them as a couple, which is a practice I normally don’t do …

When You Dream About Snakes, Start Looking for Jealousy

If you have ever been to one of my dream meetings, you will almost always hear me say that snakes are about change, transformation especially at the beginning stages of change, but there is hardly another animal on the planet that evokes so much fear as a snake.   Part of the problems with snakes is …

What Seems Inappropriate in Real Life Probably Isn’t in a Dream

So suppose last night you were dreaming about having intimate relations with someone or that you just really gorged yourself or were taking illicit drugs.    In real life or maybe even in the dream you might be feeling like you are doing something wrong.  You may wake up feeling full of guilt for something inappropriate …

The Virtue of Camouflage

Last week when we went to Bali, we visited a butterfly park one afternoon.    Butterflies are extremely attractive because of their beauty.  They have the quality of being seen and marveled at, but there are a whole lot of other insects who use the opposite quality, camouflage,  as they make their way in the world.    …

Searching for the Balinese Religion

While most Hindus are celebrating Deepavalu, the festival of light,  we arrive in Bali during the time of Ganugan, which is their own special day.   Whether it be Deepavalu,  Chinese New Year, Christmas, or Hari Raya, the thing that is common about most religious and cultural larger than life days is that people make a …