Getting Out of My Sad Stories

Last night I dreamt that I was in the house of a former colleague who had committed suicide a few years ago.    There were a number of people in the living room so I started engaging them in series of sad stories about my life of the bad things that people had done to me …

A Beer Is Ibuprofen in Liquid Form

For the most part our minds are geared to taking the easy way out of life and in the modern world we seem to have taken the easy way out to an extreme.   The cultural learning is that a physical pleasure gives you a non-material or permanent quality.  Look at this ad. This ad teaches …

Getting Up from a Fall

About a week ago I was at the UNHCR building in Kuala Lumpur working with a group of English translators from Myanmar on the subject of dreams.  My wife had invited me to the class because she teaches them higher level English a couple of times a week.  As in most of my dream meetings …

What To Do When You Cannot Remember Your Dreams

I don’t remember my dreams.   In all of the dream meetings that I have done in the past 15 years this is the statement I hear the most often.   How can I remember my dreams better?   Why don’t I remember my dreams?   I don’t dream. Here are some things that might help. 1.   Dreams are …

Satanic Dreams: Allowing the Ego to do its Work

I recently received this really cool dream.   This dream explains a great deal of our everyday problems in life. “I was in an open area surrounded by tall buildings.    In the dream I kept seeing the devil.   He had two-faces put together in a very wide face.  I wasn’t scared of him.  I just went …

How We Are Going to Achieve World Peace

Act in accordance with the counsels of the Lord: that is, rise up in such wise, and with such qualities, as to endow the body of this world with a living soul, and to bring this young child, humanity, to the stage of adulthood. So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love …

What I Have Learned About Support?

Sometimes I have a really bad attitude.   At the beginning of this school year in August was one of those times.   I just didn’t want to be there.    The school moved me from one position to the other in what I would consider a non-transparent way.   I moved from what was primarily administrative and events …

Nazi Dreams: Ridding Yourself of Your Inner Tyrant

This is a post that is from my next book about dreams entitled Life is a Beach. Recurring Childhood Dream (1950s):  I am in my neighborhood on the street where I am living.   In some dreams Germans are coming to take over the neighborhood.  In other dreams it is the Japanese.   In either case I …

Abandonment Part 2: How to Get to Your Very Best

My Short History of Abandonment Up and until 1997 I never had an employer who deliberately abandoned me.  Mind you I have had a lot of moments of  incompetence as probably most people do,  but no one ever asked me to leave my job.   Then, when I felt I was getting really great results in …

Abandonment and Addictions

I am sitting in front of my TV doing something I thought I would never do, watching a reality exclusion-based tv show.   I am not an American Idol fan.  I have never watched it.  And this is not the show I am watching.   It is the Biggest Loser Season 8.    There is one person on …

Iranian (Persian) Cultural Dreams

I am not Iranian by birth,  but recently I started hearing a number of dreams by Iranians.   I have written somewhat on the Chinese and some of how their culture plays out in dreams so I thought it would be good to share what I am observing in Iranians.    The first thing that I have …

Dreams and the Strategy of Forgetting

In almost every dream meeting that I have facilitated,  I have always gotten the same recurring question.  “Why can’t I remember my dreams?”    I have answered this question in multiple ways which all have some validity to them.    Forgetting your dreams has a lot of to do with attention.   We know from research on memory …

When Jealousy Strikes

A couple of nights ago I had two dreams related to the effects on me of other people’s jealousy.   In the first dream someone who was part of my past had been accused of a murder and the clues of the murder were left in the food lying around.     Not long after that in the …

Big Wave Dreams: Are You Going to Surf of Stay on the Beach?

Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?   The Seven Valleys and Four Valleys.  Baha’u’llah Last night in my dream I was at a beach somewhere it seems like California.   I went into the water and before me were these huge waves of the crushing type so I …

Finding Positives/ Letting Go of Negatives

The other night I was in the city of Puchong doing a meeting on Dreams with a group of about 10 people.  One of the women there had lost her husband to cancer a few months back.   As I was speaking to her about her dreams and about her self, it was just so apparent …

The Power of Gentleness

So here I am in the middle of someone else’s living room with a group of people I have never met before except for one or two.  I am in a country that is thousands of kilometers away from my country of birth  They have been invited by the host to a presentation on “Becoming …

Python by the Ocean: Yet Another Snake Dream

In this dream the dreamer is somewhere by the beach with the ocean in front.   As she is walking along,  a huge python appears and grabs her at her neck. In the last post I talked about cobras which are snakes that have a lot of venom.  A python is not a venomous snake. It …

4 Baby Cobras and Lots of Ice Cream

“So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love in every meeting, and with tenderness rejoice and cheer ye every heart. Care for the stranger as for one of your own; show to alien souls the same loving kindness ye bestow upon your faithful friends.”    Abdu’l Baha (Baha’i Writings) So in my …

The Highly Misunderstood Snake

The National Geographic Channel as well as Animal Planet have a few shows featuring a wonderful adventurer photographer (what a great job) named Austin Stevens.   He had a whole series of shows on tracking down and photographing the 10 most deadly snakes in the world and then reframing the experience for us so that we …

Detachment Day 2: Anger to Wildness

Yesterday was an extremely trying day for me in the development of detachment.  I mean here I was going along fine and making great progress in my mind with the virtue.   I actually could begin to see myself doing stuff.   And then I went to this horrible meeting where it was all about a couple …

Overcoming Infectious Thinking: Getting Out of the Mess

“Whither can a lover go but to the land of His beloved.”  Baha’u’llah So here I am in the last days in Bali.   I have to say that when I am in Bali or for that matter on any vacation, I completely forget about my work life.   I seem to understand how to play well. …

On Counting and Communicating: Dreams of Golf and Michael Moore

So there I am last night on the golf course playing a round of golf.  That is all I remember.  Sometime later I am with Michael Moore, the documentary maker,  Farenheit 911, Sicko, etc..  Both dreams are a mixture of positive and negative so it lets me that whatever the issue is inside,  I have …

On Reconciling a Marriage

Recently I was doing marriage counseling with a couple who had been separated for a few months, had gotten back together and now were looking for some ways to preserve their marriage.   I have to admit that I was really reluctant to see them as a couple, which is a practice I normally don’t do …

When You Dream About Snakes, Start Looking for Jealousy

If you have ever been to one of my dream meetings, you will almost always hear me say that snakes are about change, transformation especially at the beginning stages of change, but there is hardly another animal on the planet that evokes so much fear as a snake.   Part of the problems with snakes is …

What Seems Inappropriate in Real Life Probably Isn’t in a Dream

So suppose last night you were dreaming about having intimate relations with someone or that you just really gorged yourself or were taking illicit drugs.    In real life or maybe even in the dream you might be feeling like you are doing something wrong.  You may wake up feeling full of guilt for something inappropriate …

Some Guiding Principles for Transformation

These are some of the things that I have found very helpful in the change process. 1.  The process of change is never ending because the spiritual dimension to life is infinite.   This means that there is always  limitless potential to actualize. 2.  The best kind of transformation occurs by submitting to what the Creator …

How To Have a Meeting on the Power of Encouragement

Last night Debby and I hosted a meeting in our home with about 15 people on the topic of encouragement so I thought I would share a few thoughts about it especially the questions.      The nice thing about organizing a meeting in your home and inviting people to it is that only the people who …

Releasing Some Creativity

So here I am in my dream last night (early this morning) yelling at a young pre-adolescent girl for messing up some tables with a mixture of what seemed to be lipstick and paint.  It seems like the activity is over and we are moving onto something else, but each time that the tables are …

Journeying to the Land of Change

Earlier this morning, when I went out for one of my normal midweek holiday runs toward KL’s Lake Gardens,  an interesting question made its way into my head.    The question was this.   Is there a place you can go where all of the changes that you want to make in yourself already exist? What was …

Letting Others Have Their Fears

Not too long ago I found myself in a bit of hellish feeling in the midst of paradise.   So here I am sitting in a meeting talking about facilitating young people’s experiences, but right next to me is a person who seems a bit out of place.  I can sense her discomfort, perhaps boredom.   It …