Day 10: Projecting Yourself into the Future with the New Virtue

“Consider not the present condition, but rather foresee the future and the end. A seed in the beginning is very small, but in the end a great tree. One should not consider the seed, but the tree and its abundance of blossoms, leaves and fruits.”     (Abdu’l-Baha, Baha’i World Faith – Abdu’l-Baha Section, p. 410) …

Day 8: The Mother of All Fears

“Ye were created to show love one to another and not perversity and rancour. Take pride not in love for yourselves but in love for your fellow-creatures. Glory not in love for your country, but in love for all mankind.”  Baha’u’llah Sometimes good ideas like having 19 consecutive days of doing this transformation plan run …

Day 6: Identity and Ego/True Self States

Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?   Ali quoted in Seven Valleys The word identity in a transformational context means that you so experience and  act on the energy of a particular virtue that you and others start referring to you as a person with that quality …

Day 4: Listening to the Spirit Within

“So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love in every meeting, and with tenderness rejoice and cheer ye every heart.”    Abdu’l Baha One of the first keys to any transformation experience is the ability to have a positive experience and then remember it.    Because of the way the world is often …

Day 3: Connecting to Positive Energy

“And be ye not like those who forget God, and whom He hath therefore caused to forget their own selves.”  Baha’u’llah For most people in the Western world and other places God is an angry man in the sky shooting out lightning bolts when people do bad things.   I am really not sure how God …

Day 2: How the Virtue Will Change Your Entire Life

O SON OF BEING! With the hands of power I made thee and with the fingers of strength I created thee; and within thee have I placed the essence of My light. Be thou content with it and seek naught else, for My work is perfect and My command is binding. Question it not, nor …

Day 1: Choosing the Focus of Change

 Let each morn be better than its eve and each morrow richer than its yesterday.  Baha’u’llah Most people, when setting goals for change have the idea that is widely spread throughout the world, that if you want to accomplish something that you need to have a specific target so that you will see it all …

Falling in Love with Death Dream

I had a dream I fell in love with the grim reaper (death). I was not scared of him and never felt threatened by his presence but we fell in love with each other! This maybe one of the most extraordinary dreams I have ever read.   You might have a tendency to think that it …

Using the Virtue of Playfulness to Be of Service

One of the great bounties of my life for which I am eternally grateful is having grown up in a family whose father taught physical education along with my next door neighbor’s father along with other relatives.    We learned how to play.  It comes so natural to me that I can’t imagine how people could …

If You Want to Develop Something New, You Have to Let Go of Something Old

The old skin has to be shed for the new one to come.  Joseph Campbell Last night we had a gathering in our place which we have each month to explore various topics.   We always have a dinner because the Baha’i Writings state that the spiritual and material worlds should be like a mirror to …

Dreams and Exoricism

Last week someone sent me a dream about exorcising some demonic things from inside of them.   When I work with dreams,  I use two qualities from within myself to help me in the process.  One is the quality of self-discipline and the other is playfulness.    Self-discipline forces me to treat things in a metaphoric manner …

The Critical and Encouraging Voices in Your Head

It would be so great if the voices in our head were encouraging ones like a crowd in a stadium cheering for you or a friend reminding you of all of your positive virtues.    The reality for almost everyone, however, is that that critical voices in our heads are the dominant ones.   They can be …

Spiritual Goals versus Material Goals: The Difference is in the Specifics

When you go to most self-help or business sections of a bookstore, you will find that when they talk about setting goals and planning for the future that it is important to be specific, measurable, realistic, etc..   because the brain works best when it has clarity about a target and then goes for it.     This …

The Keys to Dealing with Fear

The first key to being able to overcome fear is to have a friendly, rather than antagonistic relationship with it.    Fear is a universal negative emotion that we all face.   It comes in a lot of varieties.   We all have fear.  It is part of being human.   I think that perhaps future generations will have …

Sexual Dreams

Sexual dreams are very interesting because when people have them they often wake up with the physical sensations as if they actually had sex.    Probably there is no other category of dreams that require the virtue of self-discipline and mental focus to get through to the message that the dream is actually portraying than sexual …

The Lure of Laos

When I was a young man growing up in America, the Mekong River, especially in Vietnam was associated with war and bloodshed.   Here we are at breakfast and at sunset on the Mekong in Luang Prabang, Laos.  It is hard to imagine a more peaceful and tranquil place.  When you look at these scenes, it …

Maintaining What is in Your Heart

Last night we had one of our monthly gatherings in our own home.  This one was about how to keep on your own path to accomplish a goal with lots of action.   It was actually the 4th in a series taken from Baha’u’llah’s book,  The Four Valleys. So to start the meeting we read the …

Satanic Dreams: Allowing the Ego to do its Work

I recently received this really cool dream.   This dream explains a great deal of our everyday problems in life. “I was in an open area surrounded by tall buildings.    In the dream I kept seeing the devil.   He had two-faces put together in a very wide face.  I wasn’t scared of him.  I just went …

Being an Individual and Being a Group at the Same Time

Early this week Debby and I spent 3 days among the aboriginal people of Malaysia, the Orang Asli.   In Malay the word orang means people and asli which original.      An orangutan literally translated means a person of the forest.     Many of the Orang Asli live in an area known as the Cameron Highlands which is …

Abandonment and Addictions

I am sitting in front of my TV doing something I thought I would never do, watching a reality exclusion-based tv show.   I am not an American Idol fan.  I have never watched it.  And this is not the show I am watching.   It is the Biggest Loser Season 8.    There is one person on …

Dreams and the Strategy of Forgetting

In almost every dream meeting that I have facilitated,  I have always gotten the same recurring question.  “Why can’t I remember my dreams?”    I have answered this question in multiple ways which all have some validity to them.    Forgetting your dreams has a lot of to do with attention.   We know from research on memory …

When Jealousy Strikes

A couple of nights ago I had two dreams related to the effects on me of other people’s jealousy.   In the first dream someone who was part of my past had been accused of a murder and the clues of the murder were left in the food lying around.     Not long after that in the …

Big Wave Dreams: Are You Going to Surf of Stay on the Beach?

Dost thou reckon thyself only a puny form When within thee the universe is folded?   The Seven Valleys and Four Valleys.  Baha’u’llah Last night in my dream I was at a beach somewhere it seems like California.   I went into the water and before me were these huge waves of the crushing type so I …

Finding Positives/ Letting Go of Negatives

The other night I was in the city of Puchong doing a meeting on Dreams with a group of about 10 people.  One of the women there had lost her husband to cancer a few months back.   As I was speaking to her about her dreams and about her self, it was just so apparent …

The Power of Gentleness

So here I am in the middle of someone else’s living room with a group of people I have never met before except for one or two.  I am in a country that is thousands of kilometers away from my country of birth  They have been invited by the host to a presentation on “Becoming …

4 Baby Cobras and Lots of Ice Cream

“So far as ye are able, ignite a candle of love in every meeting, and with tenderness rejoice and cheer ye every heart. Care for the stranger as for one of your own; show to alien souls the same loving kindness ye bestow upon your faithful friends.”    Abdu’l Baha (Baha’i Writings) So in my …

The Highly Misunderstood Snake

The National Geographic Channel as well as Animal Planet have a few shows featuring a wonderful adventurer photographer (what a great job) named Austin Stevens.   He had a whole series of shows on tracking down and photographing the 10 most deadly snakes in the world and then reframing the experience for us so that we …

On Counting and Communicating: Dreams of Golf and Michael Moore

So there I am last night on the golf course playing a round of golf.  That is all I remember.  Sometime later I am with Michael Moore, the documentary maker,  Farenheit 911, Sicko, etc..  Both dreams are a mixture of positive and negative so it lets me that whatever the issue is inside,  I have …

On Reconciling a Marriage

Recently I was doing marriage counseling with a couple who had been separated for a few months, had gotten back together and now were looking for some ways to preserve their marriage.   I have to admit that I was really reluctant to see them as a couple, which is a practice I normally don’t do …

Live in the World of Virtues. Get out of the World of Tasks

The other day I had a pretty scary thought.  Am I going to reach the end of my career just doing tasks that other people assign measuring myself on how well I did what they asked?    So I decided to find an alternative, which is to live in the land of virtues.   I learned this …