On Counting and Communicating: Dreams of Golf and Michael Moore

So there I am last night on the golf course playing a round of golf.  That is all I remember.  Sometime later I am with Michael Moore, the documentary maker,  Farenheit 911, Sicko, etc..  Both dreams are a mixture of positive and negative so it lets me that whatever the issue is inside,  I have …

On Reconciling a Marriage

Recently I was doing marriage counseling with a couple who had been separated for a few months, had gotten back together and now were looking for some ways to preserve their marriage.   I have to admit that I was really reluctant to see them as a couple, which is a practice I normally don’t do …

Live in the World of Virtues. Get out of the World of Tasks

The other day I had a pretty scary thought.  Am I going to reach the end of my career just doing tasks that other people assign measuring myself on how well I did what they asked?    So I decided to find an alternative, which is to live in the land of virtues.   I learned this …

The Virtue of Camouflage

Last week when we went to Bali, we visited a butterfly park one afternoon.    Butterflies are extremely attractive because of their beauty.  They have the quality of being seen and marveled at, but there are a whole lot of other insects who use the opposite quality, camouflage,  as they make their way in the world.    …

Some Guiding Principles for Transformation

These are some of the things that I have found very helpful in the change process. 1.  The process of change is never ending because the spiritual dimension to life is infinite.   This means that there is always  limitless potential to actualize. 2.  The best kind of transformation occurs by submitting to what the Creator …

Remembering Being a Hurdler

Well I am starting to actually learn a few new lessons about working with authority and it is paying off.    I was thinking today that it is a like like running the hurdles.   The best hurdlers have such smooth form that the hurdle motion is a real thing of beauty.  They don’t fight the hurdles, …

How To Have a Meeting on the Power of Encouragement

Last night Debby and I hosted a meeting in our home with about 15 people on the topic of encouragement so I thought I would share a few thoughts about it especially the questions.      The nice thing about organizing a meeting in your home and inviting people to it is that only the people who …

Releasing Some Creativity

So here I am in my dream last night (early this morning) yelling at a young pre-adolescent girl for messing up some tables with a mixture of what seemed to be lipstick and paint.  It seems like the activity is over and we are moving onto something else, but each time that the tables are …

The Reason Why People Don’t Hold On to Their Kids

Last night I had a dream in which I was getting a lot of kids to be involved with play, but then their were parents standing around and they kept getting in the way, and then in the next chapter of my dream I couldn’t find any of my things in the place where I …

Journeying to the Land of Change

Earlier this morning, when I went out for one of my normal midweek holiday runs toward KL’s Lake Gardens,  an interesting question made its way into my head.    The question was this.   Is there a place you can go where all of the changes that you want to make in yourself already exist? What was …

Miracles Happen But So What?

When Baha’u’llah, the prophet founder of the Baha’i Faith, was teaching His Faith and revealing scriptures in the 19th century, the local Muslim clergy often became jealous of His might and power, which caused them to conjure up ways to discredit Him. One of the ways that the thought of was to challenge Him to …

Letting Others Have Their Fears

Not too long ago I found myself in a bit of hellish feeling in the midst of paradise.   So here I am sitting in a meeting talking about facilitating young people’s experiences, but right next to me is a person who seems a bit out of place.  I can sense her discomfort, perhaps boredom.   It …

Power v. Obsessive-Compulsive

As I wrote in the my last post, when people becomes abusive with power,  they get so much into their animal selves that being in a relationship with them is really negative for both you and the abuser.    The best thing to do is to leave the relationship until their justice in the environment. But …

Getting Out of Someone Else’s Nightmare 2: an NLP Procedure

In the last post I was writing about not being in someone else’s nightmare but being able to live in your best energy as if your life were a dream come true.    In Neuro-linguistic programming we have some ways to help people out of this bind so I thought that I would write a procedure …

When I Was In Elementary School

Last night I had a dream that took me back to elementary school.     The dream was pretty vague but it left me with one of the difficulties that I had growing up in that era which probably still exists in this era.     The dream recalled memories of some students who were not extremely intelligent, had …

Avoid Literal Thinking

It seems to me that a large percentage of the current problems we are having in our world come from taking things that are meant to be deep and metaphorical in a literal and shallow way.    We see it most often in fundamentalist religion’s ability to convince large numbers of people that scripture is meant …

How to Analyze Your Child’s Dreams?

Someone asked the other day when I was doing a presentation on dreams to some young people if I thought that the books about dreams that tell you what each thing means are worth buying.    I told her that it can be problematic because most books don’t teach you how to read a dream and …

What Do People Mean in a Dream?

What does it mean when someone appears in your dream?   If you have read my postings in the past, you know that I believe strongly that dreams are given to us so that we can become more of our true selves by developing new qualities and processes.   One thing most people have not thought about …

Animal Dreams

What should you do when you have a dream with animals? When there is a snake, a dog, a shark, an eagle, a deer, how do you regard these symbols? Dreams with animals in them are always about developing specific spiritual qualities like courage, playfulness, strength, humility, and joy. As soon as an animal appears …

Four Elements in Dream Analysis

Most of the cultures and religions in the world have classified spiritual energy into four categories which are  the heart, mind, body, and spirit.  Jesus said, for instance, that we should love God with all of our heart, mind, spirit, and strength.  In dream language or mythological language such as in native stories the four …

A Child’s Dream is Often an Insight into Society

“I was going down stairs to get some water. On the way down a statue of cats came alive and were staring at me.  Down stairs there were two purple jaguars circling around me.  Om my chair there was a sleeping lady with Ron from Harry Potter.  wrapped around her arms and Ron said, “If …

What I Learned About Power on My Sunday Morning Run

I like to reserve Sunday mornings for my long runs so today I decided that it was time that I give myself a challenge by upping the distance to 21 k.   I haven’t run 21k for awhile, but I have been gradually increasing my activity level in the last few weeks so when that happens, …

Getting the Best from My Self

I realized not too long ago that I was really tired of being in conflict with leaders  so today I made the decision that instead of focusing on them, that I would place my attention entirely on going for my own goals rather than fighting against theirs.   As I am writing this right now it …

Transforming the Worst Quality to the Best Part 2 Joyfulness

Transformation of an extremely stubborn energy into a positive one is nearly impossible unless it is understood that the negative energy fixed in the ego is learned very rapidly and holds on tenaciously. Of all the negative weapons that people use to stop growth the one that is the most effective killer of change is …

Who is Controlling the Future?

Last week, our 4th grandchild, Will Shoghi Heins-Hastings, made his transition from the world of the womb to the outside world. I wrote about this in the last posting. Being there at Will’s birth made an impression on me that I cannot put to words because there is nothing quite like holding a newborn. Right …

Embracing Uncertainty #2: Bringing in the New Baby

I was really struck by something the other day. Sen. Obama, the U.S. presidential candidate, was in Europe proclaiming that he was a world citizen, that there is a huge need for cooperation if we are to solve the issues of the day, and that he wanted to work together with others. When I read …

Maria Montessori Was Right!

Over the years Maria Montessori’s worked has received a certain amount criticism for the lack of inclusion of creative play and fantasy. If you are in a very strict Montessori program, even the personification of animals is deemed inappropriate. Well, yesterday I was working with a group of young children on the climbing wall at …

Magic of Children’s Dreams

“About a week ago I dreamt that I was flying and then I went on an amazing adventure and it was so wonderful. And then suddenly, in my dream, I went back home and something terrible happened. It woke me up and when I tried to go back to sleep and remember the great adventure, …

NLP/Anisa/Baha’i Inspired Technique for Changing Looking for Validation from Others and Then Getting All Depressed to Self Validating and Being Energized

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could have a really great technique that could change the depressive states that most of us get into when others do not give us the kind of validation we are seeking? For the huge overwhelming majority of the world’s population, seeking validation from other’s is a pattern sewn right …

Cambodia: A Wayfarer’s Journey

It is hard to imagine another place in the world that has suffered as much since the 1970s as our neighbor to the North, Cambodia. Barely a decade has passed since the series of invasions and the horrific civil war have ended. As we are flying into Siem Reap (literally Siam Defeated) my expectation is …