Finding the Gems in Everyone: The Lost Process

I can see that my daughter was put into our family to hold everyone together. She is the glue. She has started this game where she tells everyone in the family that she loves them and then tells them to say it back to her. And then she gets us to say to it each …

Listening to the Painful Truth

“Truthfulness is the foundation of all virtues.”  Baha’u’llah So here I am at the end of the semester teaching my young children some balls skills in the gym.  They are full of excitement about each basket they make and every game they play especially dodgeball.   When there is a break between classes, I do the …

Searching for Inner Peace

Last night we had a very wonderful meeting in our house with about 15 guests on the topic of Inner Peace.   Debby and I have never hosted a meeting on this topic so it was quite exciting for us to explore this new domain especially with a multi-cultural and multi-religious group. We started with reading …

The Trouble With Trying to Be God

A couple of weeks ago I was in Singapore to do a dream meeting in one our very good friend’s home.    I have done a lot of dream meetings in Asia and it never fails that  people from Chinese origin have similar themes in their dreams.  Below is one of those dreams. I was walking …

The Lure of Blame

I am pretty certain, though I have no research to back me up,  that the practice of blaming others is the number one reason why we are unable to achieve what we set out to do.      It is a delicious habit and so easy to do.  It begins young and flourishes at school and into …

The Mother of All Fears: Exclusion

I have been working on this theory for quite some time now and I have not found any cases where it does not work well.   The theory is that the core fear behind every kind of fear such as fear of heights, fear of the dark, fear of closed in spaces,  fear of making mistakes, …

Talking A Child Through A Fear

This afternoon an extraordinary thing happened when I was teaching a class of 7 years olds on the climbing wall at my school.   There is one particular challenge on the wall that can not be achieved unless a person overcome a certain amount of fear.   Well, there I was in utter shock because a boy …

You Can Change the Future By Changing the Past, But You Cannot Change the Past By Trying Make the Future Better

How do you change the past?   Let’s put it this way.  You cannot change the actual content of the past, but you can change everything else about it, and then that changes everything. Consider the question, “Who won the Vietnam War?”   In 1976 it was obvious in the eyes of many that the winner of …

What To Do When You Think a Dream Is Going to Come True

Many people have told me about dreams that have come true in real life like after the tsunami of December 2004 a lot of people said that they had dreamt it ahead of time.    The problem we have when we have a dream that seems like something is going to happen either bad or good …

How the Ego Distorts Time: Where There is Love, There is Always Time

Have you ever wondered why when you are doing something that you love to do, that time goes by swiftly as if it didn’t exist at all, but that when you are doing something you are dreading, that the clock is at a standstill? Or even worse why do we think that something that we …

Being Will

Yesterday was Will’s birthday.  He is now 2 years old.   Some people call two year olds terrible as in the terrible twos mainly because they are so willful, but when you are around our Will, you just feel wonderful all the time.  When Will was born and I was holding him,  I remember thinking that …

Grandchildren at Richmond Water Park

These are two videos of my grandchildren.   In the first one Will who will be two this week just had tried to do a skim board a few days ago at Spanish Banks in Vancouver.  Then he took what he learned and generalized it at the pool   It is pretty incredible to think what is …

Creating Bonds at the Ice Cream Store

Here are a few shots of my grandchildren.

Day 2-5 Amazing Norwegian Adventure

Arne and Hildegund Kittang came to Vista in 1981 to study Anisa in the same way that Liv and Michael had several months earlier.   On Sunday, we visited their home outside of Oslo and caught up on the last 30 years.  Because the Norway discovered oil in the 1960s they have the highest % of …

Day 1: Our Next Great Adventure

It is already 00:30 am, Saturday,  June 4th.  You would think that after a long and not so un-stressful school year that we would have the sense to take a few days rest, but not so this sometimes not-so-sane duet.   Instead we are in KLIA (that is Kuala Lumpur International Airport) at the end of …

Detachment Day 4: Letting Go of Grief

I have a certain sadness in my life that has appeared recently about the fact that work that I have done to advance programs in many schools has largely been lost after I have left the schools.    Most of what I have focused on in my career has been on taking the radical direction, in …

Detachment Day 3: Dealing with Institutionalized Backbiting

What is institutionalized backbiting?    Institutionalized backbiting is the process of allowing criticisms and other negative comments to be regarded as truth without any investigation by those who have decision making authority so that they can maintain their recognition and power over those beneath them.     It is aimed at those who are attempting to help an …

On Developing the Virtue of Detachment: Day 1

When I first started doing NLP training during the time that I lived in Alberta working on the Cree Reserve,  one of the things that I noticed was that it was extremely difficult for me to do one of the basic submodalities around internal visual processes.    The premise of NLP that is so powerful is …

When Two Selves Go Walking, Make Sure the Ego Isn’t the One Doing the Talking

The other day I was doing a workshop for a group of people who are trying to improve themselves as teachers of Baha’i children’s classes.  They knew that I had a certain amount of competence in how to teach games so they invited me to share my expertise. I almost always start all of my …

Intro to Daily Change

Consider not the present condition, but rather foresee the future and the end. A seed in the beginning is very small, but in the end a great tree. One should not consider the seed, but the tree and its abundance of blossoms, leaves and fruits. Baha’u’llah “We are going to Vancouver.” It is 5:00 PM …

Every Dream is About Peace

I made a discovery quite a number of years that has been quite revolutionary, but not many people have caught onto it.   That big discovery is that God wants us to have peace in the world.  He wants for us to be one human family living in unity and harmony.   That is the priority of …

Getting Over the Hurdle of Authority Issues

Last week as I am reluctantly going to my weekly meeting with my  supervisor I find myself wrapped in yet another distressing hour with someone who does not know where I want to go.   It is such a huge disaster and to make things worse the next day I find a letter on my desk …

Honouring Will on His First Birthday

Will, our youngest grandson, just turned one last week and so I thought I would honour him on his birthday. Will already has a six pack at one year.  I guess Shane has found a way to train the core strength early. Will is ready to go for it under any circumstances.  He just seems …

How Abdu’l Baha Affected the Prison Guards

Not long ago at the Baha’i 19 Day Feast in my children’s home, my daughter asked me to tell a story.    So I went to one of the children’s books and found an interesting story about Abdu’l Baha, the son of Baha’u’llah.     He spent most of his life in exile and some of the time …

Letting People Have Their Own Issues: Giving Yourself Much More Space

I have an extraordinary family I am happy to say.    This year, when I was visiting with my daughters and their families, they introduced me to the work of Byron Katie.   So, early on in the visit with them I asked them to help me work through some long standing issues.     One of the nice …

If I am Not Close to Someone Anymore, Who Moved?

My daughters have recently introduced me to a book called “Holding On To Your Kids” which is about how to maintain a close relationship with your children as they make their way through life.   The author, Dr. Gordon Neufeld, has described the process as attachment parenting.     So as I am thinking about the process of …

Becoming Your True Self: Don’t mistake it for the ego

The woman who cleans our apartment every week did an extraordinary act of support today.   While she was cleaning she received a call from one of her Filipino friends to come quickly to the police station to help her out.  So she left the cleaning and quickly made her way there.   It seems that her …

Diego’s Gift/Olee’s Dream

Recently my son-in-law sent me this dream about from his oldest son, Olee who is now 3 and 1/2 years old so I am sharing it because it is what we can all learn from Diego, who is the same age as Olee but has a very special gift. I dreamed the roof on the …

The Nightmare of Abusive Power

In the early 1990s I did a lot of reading on the power of encouragement and wrote extensively about it.  I thought, at that time,  that you could create absolute unity and harmony in an environment when you used its power.   For the most part that is true.   Then I started experiencing some situations where …

Getting Out of Some Else’s Nightmare

There is a huge difference between the kind of nightmare you have in your dreams at night and a real life nightmare, but both of them share at least one common trait; you want to get out of them as quickly as you can. What I realized today was that I have been making the …