Tag: negative emotions
Creating a Vision for Yourself that is Congruent with Your True Self (Not Your Ego)
During the past couple of months I have been experimenting with various small groups on the ways to create a positive vision. Part of the idea came to me because so many people fail at their New Year’s Resolutions, which are kind of a mini vision to better oneself for the coming year. If you …
Freeing Up Your Positive Future: How to Own Your Future
I have been called into the director’s office. I know it is going to be bad. No one is called into this director’s office to be congratulated. I try to get into a supremely calm state of being, but the fear is creeping in. He begins his lashing out including telling me that no one …
The Code of Jealousy: Getting Out of Extreme Protection and Guarding What You Think You Have
Jealousy is a particularly difficult negative emotion to write about for me, probably because I have mostly been on the victim side of people being jealous of me. I have more experience with trying to cope with jealous people than being jealous myself. It doesn’t come up that often for me. I will do the …
The Code of Disappointment: Beware of Expectations.
It is a little over a week since New Year’s Day. It is a good time to write about disappointment if you have already given up on the resolutions you might have set. Disappointment is the negative emotion we feel when an expectation has not been met. It has the effect of taking the wind out …
Using Your Negative Emotions as Code for your Personal Transformation
I am sitting at the top of run looking down when my body decides to fill itself up with fear of crashing badly. The longer I stay the worse it gets. The fear goes from mild reluctance to absolute paralysis. I know that I am going to ski down the slope. I am just looking …
The Key to Dream Work/Transformation Work is the Ability to be Comfortable with Darkness
Imagine that you are in the midst of dream where you are about to be crushed by a tsunami or one that you are being chased by a fierce lion that is about to pounce on you. For most people who have this kind of dream, waking up from the dream is a big relief. …
Dreamwork: Nightmares are Your Best Friends
When you wake up in the middle of the night because you have just had a terrible nightmare like a poisonous snake ready to sink its fangs in you or you are about to fall off a huge cliff, your heart is usually racing and your mind may feel some relief that the dream was …
The Secret Code to Transformation 6: Guilt
Imagine that you are a university student whose family has a path for you in the sciences leading to a medical degree. Your high school science grades were among the best. You are doing well in your coursework, but something is not right. Your motivation is lagging. It is harder and harder for you to …
The Secret Code To Transformation 5: Disappointment
You are running a really great race. Your breathing is relaxed and rhythmic. Your pace is strong. You have the goal of achieving your personal best time in today’s event. About 500 meters from the finish line you begin to get a cramp in your left calf muscle which turns into writhing pain. When you …
Why We Need to Stay in Our Discomfort
I am walking down Commercial Drive in East Van (Vancouver) on another cool and rainy day. Every step I take tells me to get out of my discomfort and into temporary relief. I could get some nice pastry, maybe some pizza, or a double macchiato latte topped with whipped cream. Don’t get me wrong here. …
How to Use Negative Emotions to Your Advantage: Part 1A FEAR
The upcoming negative emotion that I am going to write about is anxiety. Stay tuned in. It is such a prevalent emotion in lives of most people, but first I am going to write a bit more on how to be more enthusiastic when you are addressing a fear. The problem that fear addresses is …
Framework for Change Part 2: Getting Unstuck
We all have issues. We all have difficulties and problems that we have to face each day. It is built into the very core of being human that we are all facing challenges. No one escapes from the moment we are born until we die and then probably beyond that. When I first started doing …
Anxiety: It Is All an Illusion
Being worried is a very curious emotion. It doesn’t make very much sense and it is very non-productive. The other day, after I had been feel anxious at my work, I began wondering why it suddenly appeared. I am not normally a very anxious person, but somehow thoughts started to get into my head which …
The Two Memories in You
The other day I was watching a program on quantum physics which said that electrons could be in two places at the same time. When we think of the world according to Newton, this is impossible, but in quantum thinking, they seem to be in many places at once. This seems to fit with the …
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